1. Many of our “offenses” revolve around the trivial.
In recent years, our culture has taken a very unhealthy turn, embracing a perspective which predisposes our collapse under life’s adverse circumstances rather than causing us to persevere through them. The essence of this new perspective may be summed up in the word “victim.” No longer are we responsible for our attitudes and actions when we have been wronged or abused—we are now “victims.” Whatever happened is no longer our fault nor are we responsible for the way we choose to respond.
No one really consciously chooses to be a victim. We choose victimhood because it works. It becomes a strategy to deal with life — whether it is staying safe in one’s comfort zone, numbing oneself, finding company, getting attention, avoiding being responsible for something in one’s life, etc.
While the Bible promises that we will experience innocent suffering for the cause of Christ, it nowhere speaks of our being “victims” in the contemporary sense of the word. Rather, the Bible forthrightly speaks of us as “victors.”
2. Genuine forgiveness is not probation it’s proactive.
3. Unforgiveness is the Devil’s playground.
4. Practice the presence of Christ.
2 Corinthians 10:5
…we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.